Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Solitude ....
Some seek solace in you
Some take you as a vicious trap
Some try to repel you
Some just calmly rest on your lap...
May be you help to introspect and respect the past
May be you help to reflect and fathom how long I shall last...
You keep me puzzled
Of your place in my life
Whether you drive me away from vivacity
Or help me cope with strife...
Shall I befriend you for always being by my side
Or shall I deny your existence masking it with a Cheerful Tide
The tide of joy and of hope of always having some1 for you, by you
The tide that makes me believe myself and and welcome a beginning new
Oh how I fear that this tide is a foe in disguise
Which will take me away from you in to the depths of the ocean of dreams
Dreams that make me believe I am here for some1 and some1s there for me
No, I can no more go ahead with this fake reality
So truth, thou shall help me see
Show me the beauty of self, the strength of conscience
Help me combat darkness with this strength and give my life yet another chance
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Spouse at work place
Understanding the Concept of Work-Spouse:
Married/unmarried, we all know or at least have some idea of the (conventional) kind of relationship shared between a husband and wife. The roles, duties, what 1 should expect and what not from one's spouse are quite fixed in societal norms. The general belief which comes along with is that one shares one's home with one's spouse. So defining the term spouse we could say that a spouse is a person (conventionally of opposite sex) whom one is married to, and also most of the times lives along with. Someone with whom you share not just your bed but also other significant things of your life like joy, sorrow, success, failure etc. May be your best friend or confidante.
What would you then call a person whom you share a similar kind of relationship on emotional basis at workplace but are not married to? A lexically accepted term come up for this relationship is work-spouse which in the 1st instance may sound to a lay-man as if a term used to refer to your spouse if both share the same work place. But a work-spouse conversely is a person who is just your colleague but not like just any other colleague to you.
There was a period when in western countries the role of a secretary was broadened to cover many other areas (no nasty thoughts please :) ) like payment of bills, some household chores etc; other than the usual official work. Secretaries would then be looked at as work-wives.
Today however, this concept is extended beyond work-wives and the superior-subordinate relationship. On the contrary work-spouses in today's age tend to share the same posts at work-places. The nature and similarity of roles makes them face similar kind of situations, understand each other limitations, pressures etc at work thereby creating a special kind of bond.
Many people have spouses employed in completely different professions as theirs or not employed at all. In such cases, your spouse may or may not be able to empathize with you. At such times a companion at work-place can be a good vent to the pent of tensions, to share views, gossips, official likes and dislikes etc.
Setting limits:
Where do you draw a line in such a relationship which is subject to societal speculations and is based on the foundation of quicksand? The accepted scope of this relationship is purely platonic. When there are no "other" expectations from this relation, the real spouses are aware of it and even comfortable with the presence of work-spouses is when one can say alls well; but how long? The physical desires cannot be always tamed and make a person vulnerable to many external elements, emotional proximity being one.
And Finally:
Being practical, professional and constantly aware of one's moral boundaries, especially one's commitment towards the real spouse, are the key-strengths which can make both the relations (marriage and work-marriage) co-exist in harmony. Love is precious. Nurture and use it with utmost care. Dont lose it falling prey to myopic temptations.
Understanding the Concept of Work-Spouse:Married/unmarried, we all know or at least have some idea of the (conventional) kind of relationship shared between a husband and wife. The roles, duties, what 1 should expect and what not from one's spouse are quite fixed in societal norms. The general belief which comes along with is that one shares one's home with one's spouse. So defining the term spouse we could say that a spouse is a person (conventionally of opposite sex) whom one is married to, and also most of the times lives along with. Someone with whom you share not just your bed but also other significant things of your life like joy, sorrow, success, failure etc. May be your best friend or confidante.
What would you then call a person whom you share a similar kind of relationship on emotional basis at workplace but are not married to? A lexically accepted term come up for this relationship is work-spouse which in the 1st instance may sound to a lay-man as if a term used to refer to your spouse if both share the same work place. But a work-spouse conversely is a person who is just your colleague but not like just any other colleague to you.
There was a period when in western countries the role of a secretary was broadened to cover many other areas (no nasty thoughts please :) ) like payment of bills, some household chores etc; other than the usual official work. Secretaries would then be looked at as work-wives.
Today however, this concept is extended beyond work-wives and the superior-subordinate relationship. On the contrary work-spouses in today's age tend to share the same posts at work-places. The nature and similarity of roles makes them face similar kind of situations, understand each other limitations, pressures etc at work thereby creating a special kind of bond.
Many people have spouses employed in completely different professions as theirs or not employed at all. In such cases, your spouse may or may not be able to empathize with you. At such times a companion at work-place can be a good vent to the pent of tensions, to share views, gossips, official likes and dislikes etc.
Setting limits:
Where do you draw a line in such a relationship which is subject to societal speculations and is based on the foundation of quicksand? The accepted scope of this relationship is purely platonic. When there are no "other" expectations from this relation, the real spouses are aware of it and even comfortable with the presence of work-spouses is when one can say alls well; but how long? The physical desires cannot be always tamed and make a person vulnerable to many external elements, emotional proximity being one.
And Finally:
Being practical, professional and constantly aware of one's moral boundaries, especially one's commitment towards the real spouse, are the key-strengths which can make both the relations (marriage and work-marriage) co-exist in harmony. Love is precious. Nurture and use it with utmost care. Dont lose it falling prey to myopic temptations.
Married/unmarried, we all know or atleast have some idea of the (conventional) kind of relationship shared between a husband and wife. The roles, duties, what 1 should expect and what not from one's spouse are quite fixed in societal norms. The general belief which comes alongwith is that one shares one's home with one's spouse. So defining the term spouse we could say that a spouse is a person (conventionally of opposite sex) whom one is married to, and also most of the times lives along with. Someone with whom you share not just your bed but also other significant things of your life like joy, sorrow, success, failure etc. May be your best friend or confidante.
What would you then call a person whom you share a similar kind of relationship on emotional basis at workplace but are not married to? A lexically accepted term come up for this relationship is work-spouse which in the 1st instance may sound to a lay-man as if a term used to refer to your spouse if both share the same work place. But a work-spouse conversely is a person who is just your colleague but not like just any other colleague to you.
There was a period when in western countries the role of a secretary was broadened to cover many other areas (no nasty thoughts please :) ) like payment of bills, some household chores etc; other than the usual official work. Secretaries would then be looked at as work-wives.
Today however, this concept is extended beyond work-wives and the superior-subordinate relationship. On the contrary work-spouses in today's age tend to share the same posts at work-places. The nature and similarity of roles makes them face similar kind of situations, understand each other limitations, pressures etc at work thereby creating a special kind of bond.
Many people have spouses employed in completely different professions as theirs or not employed at all. In such cases, your spouse may or may not be able to empathize with you. At such times a companion at work-place can be a good vent to the pent of tensions, to share views, gossips, official likes and dislikes etc.
Setting limits:
Where do you draw a line in such a relationship which is subject to societal speculations and is based on the foundation of quicksand? The accepted scope of this relationship is purely platonic. When there are no "other" expectations from this relation, the real spouses are aware of it and even comfortable with the presence of work-spouses is when one can say alls well; but how long? The physical desires cannot be always tamed and make a person vulnerable to many external elements, emotional proximity being one.
And Finally:
Being practical, professional and constantly aware of one's moral boundaries, especially one's commitment towards the real spouse, are the key-strengths which can make both the relations (marriage and work-marriage) co-exist in harmony. Love is precious. Nurture and use it with utmost care. Dont lose it falling prey to myopic temptations.
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