Fond of dance and music, I have always enjoyed the concept of 'Changing Partner' practice when on dancing onto fast and peppy music. There are many such souls on the dance floor eager to get to dance with a much better (dance) partner irrespective of their own dancing capabilities (needless to say not all are in a want of a different partner owing to the dancing-skills of that person...some have a separate set of factors as well).
Have seen some people go absolutely crazy and get into a different style or mood altogether with every new partner they dance with. The ease with which 1 changes ones dance partner and the enthusiasm with which the new partner is welcomed in dance is a spectator's feed.What wonders me is that many people are capable of showing the same ease, zeal when it comes to changing partners in personal relationships. Lately it has so happened in case a couple of my acquaintances that when I was on the verge of getting the true rumor of say Miss A going out with Mr B, I discovered that the 2 parted months back and A is now happy mingling with C whereas B has merrily settled with D. With the rising pace of life the speed at which people are "moving on" and the exponential rise in the number of such movers is indeed astounding.
The change is so well accepted that every single memory (or 1 can say proof) of the existence of the "past" is wiped off and replaced with the new-arrival. The wallpaper on lappy, cell-phone, face of the orkut-album etc etc. Some even go many steps ahead to the extent of changing their dwelling. Thinking about the mentality which lies behind this CP (Changing Partner) syndrome: is it need for constant change?, lack of adaptability?, desire to experiment?...the list would go on and on. But above all people with this syndrome possess 1 quality which is worth picking (again, this attribute being qualified as quality is completely subjective) which is the capability of Delete and Refresh. So very mechanic but done within the boundaries of a human-being. Only if this task of getting over one's past over a desirably short period of time and welcoming a new tomorrow would have been as simple to all as the CP practitioners make it seem, the silence of many heartbreaks wouldnt have been so hard-hitting to the ears.
CP is a sequential process and hence lacks adventure in comparison to n-timing (2 or 3 or say n timing your 1st partner).Managing more than 1 relationships all in harmony is a challenging task and exhibits appreciable amount of managerial skills. So the next food for thought(?) would be a tribute to such jugglers.
Have seen some people go absolutely crazy and get into a different style or mood altogether with every new partner they dance with. The ease with which 1 changes ones dance partner and the enthusiasm with which the new partner is welcomed in dance is a spectator's feed.What wonders me is that many people are capable of showing the same ease, zeal when it comes to changing partners in personal relationships. Lately it has so happened in case a couple of my acquaintances that when I was on the verge of getting the true rumor of say Miss A going out with Mr B, I discovered that the 2 parted months back and A is now happy mingling with C whereas B has merrily settled with D. With the rising pace of life the speed at which people are "moving on" and the exponential rise in the number of such movers is indeed astounding.
The change is so well accepted that every single memory (or 1 can say proof) of the existence of the "past" is wiped off and replaced with the new-arrival. The wallpaper on lappy, cell-phone, face of the orkut-album etc etc. Some even go many steps ahead to the extent of changing their dwelling. Thinking about the mentality which lies behind this CP (Changing Partner) syndrome: is it need for constant change?, lack of adaptability?, desire to experiment?...the list would go on and on. But above all people with this syndrome possess 1 quality which is worth picking (again, this attribute being qualified as quality is completely subjective) which is the capability of Delete and Refresh. So very mechanic but done within the boundaries of a human-being. Only if this task of getting over one's past over a desirably short period of time and welcoming a new tomorrow would have been as simple to all as the CP practitioners make it seem, the silence of many heartbreaks wouldnt have been so hard-hitting to the ears.
CP is a sequential process and hence lacks adventure in comparison to n-timing (2 or 3 or say n timing your 1st partner).Managing more than 1 relationships all in harmony is a challenging task and exhibits appreciable amount of managerial skills. So the next food for thought(?) would be a tribute to such jugglers.
7 comments:
Its good maybe could have used more examples. Very good for the first time
Its really good....i am looking forward for the next one.. :)
Very well written. More and more people are getting used to this CP syndrome. And i think its due to our lifestyle which has changed. But i think true love is totally different from this.
Plus if everyone was so comfortable with CP and there were no heartbreaks or aashiq deewaane, then seriously we wouldn't have a large no. shaayars we have today, who speak only of one true love.
I think the CP in life phenomenon depends on the LEVEL OF COMMITMENT and this thing is what differentiate it from the CP at Dance Floor.
At dance floor one is not committed to dance with only one but while selecting girl friend or boy friend there is always a commitment. I'm not against changing partners but what matters is the commitment- If u've promised ur partner that u'll always remain commited to him only then no matter what happens(until and unless he moves away from his promises) U should not go for other partners.But if ur relationship stands on the ground that u'll be together till the time u like to be then CP is alright.
In the end I'll say that its a very interesting philosophical topic.
I see a lot of potential here. I guess a little harmless humour would generate more interest.
On CPs I feel that our society is now learning and maturing in the their acting skills as compared to the more 'self-restrained' west. The skill to see and manage one-self from outside self is what embolding the CPs in thinking 'so what / who cares?'.
hmmm quite a good topic to discuss and focus on....all in all you have greatly explained it n even put a very good emphasis on the reality of CP's.....well ultimately i wud say that this is really a very interesting topic for both bachelors as well as married people...good job
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